Even though married life was progressing well and all involved were happy, Elizabeth Weil decided to actively apply herself to “the project of being a spouse” and to document the process.
Weil’s article is slow to start but becomes an absorbing inquiry in to what it means to be married.
I’ve never really believed that you just marry one day at the altar or before a justice of the peace. I believe that you become married â€” truly married â€” slowly, over time, through all the road-rage incidents and precolonoscopy enemas, all the small and large moments that you never expected to happen and certainly didnâ€™t plan to endure. But then you do: you endure.
In a similarly absorbing manner, Jonah Lehrer discusses the concept of marriage from a neuropsychological perspective:
The only problem with this romantic myth is that passion is temporary. It inevitably decays with time. This is not a knock against passion – this is a basic fact of our nervous system. We adapt to our pleasures; we habituate to delight. In other words, the same thing happens to passionate love that happens to Christmas presents. We’re so impossibly happy and then, within a matter of days or weeks or months, we take it all for granted.