25+ Etiquette

Bring­ing to mind some­thing I wrote about last week (The Quarter­life Crisis), this advice to those 25 and over is more etiquette les­son than anti­dote to the 20-some­thing mal­aise.

It is time, if you have not already done so, for you to emerge from your cocoon of post-adoles­cent dither­ing and self-absorp­tion and join the rest of us in the world. Past the quarter-cen­tury mark, you see, cer­tain actions, atti­tudes, and beha­vi­ors will simply no longer do, and while it might seem unpleas­ant to feign a matur­ity and soli­cit­ous­ness towards oth­ers that you may not genu­inely feel, it is not only appre­ci­ated by oth­ers but neces­sary for your con­tin­ued sur­viv­al.

Three that par­tic­u­larly struck a chord:

  • Devel­op a phys­ic­al aware­ness of your sur­round­ings (“You […] need to learn to sense oth­ers and get out of their way.”).
  • Have some­thing to talk about besides col­lege or your job (“Be inter­ested so that you can be inter­est­ing”).
  • Rude­ness is not a sig­ni­fi­er of your import­ance (“Be civil or be else­where”).

via Kot­tke