In response to Dr Rob Dobrenski’s arti­cle on why mar­riages fail (linked pre­vi­ously), The Last Psy­chi­a­trist looks at var­i­ous “post-marriage accel­er­a­tors of divorce”—things you can do today to destroy your mar­riage (lim­ited time offer):

  • Be con­temp­tu­ous
  • Bring your work home (emo­tion­ally)
  • Rush through your ‘fam­ily life’ in order to spend time with yourself
  • Be painfully hon­est with friends/colleagues about your relationship
  • Com­mu­ni­cate through your kids
  • Refill hedo­nis­tic sup­plies (“look else­where for affir­ma­tion of identity”)

TLP com­piled this list because he felt that Dr Dobrenski’s arti­cle focused more on “rea­sons [that] are gen­er­ally of the type ‘unre­al­is­tic expec­ta­tions’ or at least ‘the wrong impres­sion.’   In other words, the mar­riages failed not because of what went on in the mar­riage, but because peo­ple were ori­ented wrong before they even got married.”